He and I met last night during a random group in Wailing Caverns. I was playing Olateria, level 19, doing my shadow-priesting thing. I zone in and the party is already down a ways, meaning some DPS left - not always a bad sign, but not a good one, in this case. As I ran to catch up it was clear that the tank and the healer were already fighting. Xswedish (the healer) blessed us with phrases like:
"Learn to tank and hold aggro, you fuckin noob."
The tank and healer went back and forth about this through the next several pulls, the healer blaming the tank that he wasn't holding aggro, and the tank blaming the healer that he wasn't healing him. I was keeping my mouth shut since I was just a DPS and had nothing to do with their fight anyway. Until Xswedish decides to turn his fearsome wrath on us as well.
"*spams Recount* Gawd, learn to DPS, you fuckin noobs."
I think I was third on the meters. I'm not really sure because I had only arrived in the middle of the pull and had barely had time to do ANY DPS after passing out buffs. Plus, I didn't really care. DPS meters at that level really mean nothing to me.
I ignore the healer who, by this time, has worked himself into a righteous rage and is constantly yelling at the tank to "FUKING TANK", etc, etc. As far as I can tell, the tank IS tanking but the Xswedish is out to prove a point. In the next mob he gets aggro and, instead of running towards the tank, he simply stands there and let's it beat on him.
"HAHA, I got aggro not doing shit and you're not doing a fucking thing."
By that time Xswedish's health was pretty low and either the tank hadn't noticed he had aggro or didn't care. I'm leaning towards didn't care after all the abuse he had given him. Either way, at that the tank wearily made his way back over to taunt the mob. As he was running back, I slapped a shield on the tank (who Xswedish was not healing) and on Xswedish himself who's health was dropping dangerously low.
Biggest mistake of my life apparently.
"Olateria, WTF. WTF you doing?"
I'm honestly perplexed. He's calling me out for shielding him? "Saving you?'
He then proceeds to link me all the spells he has in his arsenal that would have saved his life - Lifeblood, Stoneclaw totem, etc. My instant thought was, well, then why aren't you USING them? I don't reply to him because I feel he's just being over the top. He's actually complaining that I was looking out for him? How ridiculous can you get? But he's not done yet.
"What is this, like your first instance? You roll as DPS, then just fucking DPS. Learn your fucking role, noob!"
There was more to it than that, but that's the gist of it anyway. I was astounded. I was getting yelled at for shielding the healer when he had aggro. My shield is instant. It's not like it really took time away from my DPSing to slap it on him. And, I admit, I'm prone to keep an eye on the healer and tank when I'm not healing just because it's second nature to me. My main is a healer so I usually feel a kind of kindred spirit with them. Not so with this guy. The tank felt he had to say something too.
"You know, he's got a point, Olateria."
I felt utterly betrayed. I'd shielded the tank too, to keep him from dying while the healer proved whatever point he was making. After all the verbal abuse, I was astounded the tank would side with the healer. Bitter, by this point, I reply.
"Wow, okey dokey, I won't shield anyone again. I will DPS without any concern for the rest of you."
Here's my question for you all though: was I right or wrong? To me, being in a group means working as a team. If people are dying all around me and the healer is being an asshat or is dying himself, shouldn't I slap some shield or heals on them if I can to avoid a wipe? Xswedish was saying I should not. That I was there to DPS and nothing more. To me, that's wrong. We're there to work together, no matter our roles. Of course, yes, my main job is to DPS, but in dangerous situations, I don't think me throwing a shield on someone to keep them from death is a sin the likes of which no one has ever seen before.
His verbal abuse continued for the next few pulls, pissing off the other two DPS and causing them to drop. The tank dies twice because the healer's too busy on his tirade to heal anyone. Finally, the tank drops and I go as well. I'm not even sure why I stayed as long as I did. Well, no, that's not true, I do know why I stayed. I stayed to watch the tank die twice. Both times I could have slapped a shield on him and saved him but by then I was angry and was doing nothing but DPSing. I was determined not to save anyone else or do anything that might be considered "non DPS".
Honestly, most abusive group I have ever been in.
So, everyone, learn your roles! If you're a DPS and have healing/damage mitigation spells - don't use them! At least, don't use them on anyone else! You're there to DPS, not heal, noobs!
Welcome to my ignore list, Xswedish.
